What to Do if a Client Requests Roleplay

For many punter clients, stimulating the mind is as important as the body. They want to live out erotic fantasies from school, work, travel, or any sexual situation that they either haven't explored in real life or want to experience again. 

That's where roleplay comes in. It can be as simple as putting on a costume or as complex as playing a character in a film. Any good roleplay involves a bit of improvising, but it's best to be as prepared as possible before your session begins. 

Common Fantasies to Expect

There are dozens of unique fantasies you might encounter as an escort. Some of these don't require any more effort than wearing a costume and acting out a porn scenario. Others may require you to get into a role and not break character. 

There are a few main types of roleplay fantasies, and they often overlap. 

Costume-based Fantasies

Costume fantasies are more about what you're wearing for the session than what you do. These can play out like corny porn scenarios, and it's likely that you'll need to take the lead. 

In these fantasies, your client wants to see you wear something like a schoolgirl outfit, sexy librarian, pirate, ballerina, French maid, or even a fursuit. Getting into character is important, but appearances matter the most. 

While costume fantasies can be as easy as sexy Halloween costumes, some of them take a little more effort. Clients may ask you to roleplay as a celebrity or fictional character like Harley Quinn, Supergirl, or their favourite video game character. 

This might require more effort or makeup, and you should charge accordingly. The client may also want to dress up, and you should know about this ahead of time. 

Scenario Fantasies

Scenario fantasies take a bit more acting than simple costume fantasies. Appearances are still important, but what they really want is to experience a sexual situation that's taboo, uncommon, or impossible in real life. 

They may want you to roleplay as a teacher reprimanding them after class, a step-parent disciplining them, a college kid who can't pay for a pizza delivery, etc. 

In these fantasies, it's critical to stay in the scenario. Read your client as best you can, but it's usually up to you to take the lead and make the situation sexual. 

Forbidden fruit tastes the sweetest, so scenario fantasies usually involve some kind of power dynamic or taboo. A cop giving a ticket or a robber during a home invasion are common examples of power play. They can also involve serious taboos like incest, being caught cheating on their partner, sleeping with their neighbour or friend's parent, or being watched by someone else. 

However, scenarios aren't always over the top. Sometimes they're as easy as a hot wife hitting on the plumber or the pool boy. Sometimes they add sex to everyday scenarios where we're naturally vulnerable, like doctor visits, massages, or being asleep. 

Some scenarios, like hypnotism or having sex with someone who's asleep, are incredibly vulnerable if you're on the receiving end. You should only agree to these if you're wholly comfortable with both the situation and the client. 

Regardless of the scenario, you need to play the part. If you're the cop giving your naughty client a ticket, be assertive and lusty. If they're playing the dominant character, put on your best doe eyes, feign innocence, and let them take the lead. 

As always, do your best to read the situation and adapt. It's natural to make mistakes, and your client should be understanding of this. 

Emotional Fantasies

Some clients want to simulate emotional connection or relive encounters with someone who meant a lot to them. This can be several things but usually involves an ex-partner or spouse. Sometimes it won't be sexual at all. 

This will be a vulnerable situation for both you and your client, so it's important to be aware of their emotions. They typically want you to look and act like someone they used to know. You should only agree to this if you are 100% comfortable with the situation and feel like you're up to the task. 

They may open up about their feelings and say emotional things. They may cry, get angry, or project their feelings in other ways toward the person you're pretending to be. On the other hand, they might just want to have a good lay while imagining someone they used to know. 

These fantasies can take a lot of preparation (see below) and you shouldn't deviate from anything that's been planned. Let your client take the lead, and do not improvise. It may seem appropriate at the moment, but you're not the person they're fantasizing about, and they may get upset if you pull them from their fantasy by saying or doing things that person wouldn't do. 

In these cases, it's best not to do much talking at all. Usually, your client will do most of the talking and only need you to be a caring presence. 

Again, emotional fantasies are complicated and sometimes a bit awkward, and it's okay not to agree to them if you aren't comfortable. 

How to Prepare

With any kind of roleplay, preparation is key. For costume fantasies, you may already have outfits you want to wear. That's okay, but try to send a picture before the appointment to make sure it's what your client wants. 

Characters like soldiers, firemen, or cops are easy to dress up as. Some characters are a lot geekier or niche. If the client wants a video game, television, or movie character, ask for a picture so you know what they have in mind. 

It's also a good idea to look up video clips of the character so you can try to imitate their voice and mannerisms to the best of your ability. 

They might have something specific they want you to wear, or they might give you free rein to handle the costume on your own. As long as you're comfortable with the situation (and the costume is clean), there's no problem either way. However, any costs associated with costume fantasies should be the client's responsibility. 

Scenario fantasies take a little more preparation, but not much. You need to communicate with the client about what they want you to do, how they want you to act, and what they want you to wear. Some clients are great about telling you what they want, while others are inexperienced or shy and will need you to ask the right questions. 

You should know ahead of time whether the client wants the scenario to be overtly sexual or to feel natural. For example, asking a cop if you can blow him to get out of a ticket is different than asking if there's any way you can settle it off the record. 

Does your client want you to make the situation sexual, or do they want to take the lead? Do they want you to act shy and innocent, or unmistakably promiscuous? These questions should be answered before the session so that when the time comes, you can focus on the scenario. 

Emotional fantasies can require the most preparation, so you need to get a feel for what your partner wants beforehand. It may be awkward to ask, but you need to know if they want you to talk and how they want you to act. This means learning a little bit about the person you'll be playing. 

They'll often request some kind of specific clothing, like a certain colour dress. Again, it's important to show them what you have in mind before the appointment so you know they'll be satisfied. 

For any and all roleplay, you should set clear boundaries with your client prior to meeting them. I recommend establishing a safe word even if you don't expect your session to involve any discomfort. 

When to Say No

You should say no to any fantasy that makes you feel unsafe or uncomfortable. This can be before the appointment or anytime during. 

This goes without saying, but you should decline any fantasies that involve minors. If you aren't experienced with BDSM, you should decline fantasies that involve pain or violence. Don't try to learn on the job; there are plenty of ways to ease into some of the more extreme fantasies before you try them with a client. 

You should also be honest with yourself and your client about your personality, abilities, and specialities. No one can do it all, and there's no reason to put yourself in a situation that's not a good fit for you. 

For example, it's best to decline emotional fantasies if you aren't ready to be emotionally available for a client. If you're grossed out by a step-mom fantasy, don't try to force yourself into it. 

The bottom line is that you should never be made to feel unsafe or uncertain about roleplay, so don't be afraid to say no to an appointment, cancel it if you change your mind, or walk out if your client crosses a line. 

Takeaways

Roleplay takes some preparation, but it doesn't take much practice to get good at it. Do a little research on your character, communicate with your client, and set boundaries. 

When you get into character, roleplay can even be fun. Try to really immerse yourself in the role your client wants you to play, and you may find yourself enjoying it as much as they do. 

By: Dainis Graveris

Dainis, is the editor of SexualAlpha.

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