How To Turn Down a Client Gently

How To Turn Down A Client Gently

Unsurprisingly, that is where it gets difficult. Turning down anyone or anything, in its most basic form as an action, is rude and mean. Many escorts do it automatically, regardless of who they hurt or what the consequences are. This automatic way is more straightforward, no doubt. But how about if you want to do it gently? We think it's possible and we show you how you can do it too, the simple way. Here's a quick step-by-step guide on how to turn down your client gently. We've broken down the scenarios into two parts:

In-person or via phone call

Sometimes, you can decide to change your mind right before a client arrives. The best way to cancel the appointment is by telling him in person.

Step 1: Seize the right moment

Turning down anyone is a sensitive matter, so it needs to be done at the right moment. If you're looking to do it gently, you can't just drop the bombshell on your client. You need to seize the right moment. The best moment is the sweet spot between his arrival and before the action gets any further. You don't want to wait until he tries to pay you or undresses himself to warn him. You also don't want to shock him from the door with a refusal. That would be rude. So let him in and then prepare to strike. In case you are doing an outcall, it works in reverse. Walk into the room, take a breath, and then prepare to strike.

Step 2: Wait for him to stop speaking

Almost automatically, your client will start speaking just as the two of you enter the room and close the door. Don't try to interject his speech with your refusal. Wait for him to stop speaking and then start. Your aim is to do this gently, so why begin rudely? Just to be clear, make sure you're in a safe position when you do this. There are different types of clients and some don't take any form of rejection too well and might try to get violent.

Step 3: Start your speech with his name

The next step we recommend is starting your speech with his name or names. Don't just point out your refusal in a flat, uninterested way. Capture the client's attention by referring to them directly as you start your speech. The client will get interested in what you have to say. But mostly, use the name the client has given you. Here's an example: "Mr. John, I have to say ...."

Step 4: Highlight his best attributes

In the rude version of a client turn down, the escort drops the bombshell within the first few seconds. It's a blunt blow, not designed to consider the client's feelings or reactions. In the gentler version of this turndown, things are taken much slower. We recommend that after you call out his name to get his attention, you should start by highlighting some of his good attributes. This can be any trait you noticed during your previous phone calls or discussions, such as their looks or body shape, or ethnic heritage. A good ego boost works wonderfully as a buffer to the embarrassment that might come later.

Step 5: Announce your refusal

Next, announce your refusal. This is the time you've been waiting for. Don't mess it up with a rambling speech about what has happened to you. Instead, use a short, straightforward refusal that conveys the message clearly.

Step 6: Offer your reason

Of course, don't expect to get out of an appointment without a good reason. At this point, the reasons you give should depend on how honest you are or how you think the client will react. If the client is sensitive, a reason for turning him down can be being on your period, for example, and the average client will understand this. Some reasons, even when true, will not be received so warmly. For example, if you express your dislike for the client. It's up to you to choose what reason you give. If you're short of what to say, you can always say you don't feel well, or that there was a scheduling conflict, etc. Say all this in the kindest, most sensible way possible, so you don't come off smug.

Step 7: Apologize again profusely and blame yourself

If you haven't apologized yet, this is where to do it. If you already have, it can never be too much. You can even blame yourself here and show as much remorse as possible for killing what was going to be a significant pleasure moment. This is just one way of doing this. We pose the assumption that the client will be listening to you calmly as you make your speech. If he doesn't, you can always improvise and remain gentle in your delivery.

Via email, text, or recorded message

Step 1: Open the conversation with his name

If you have just closed the conversation with him, open it again. If you happen to currently be in conversation with him when you change your mind, just keep going. Start your message by using his name. This will get his attention.

Step 2: Highlight his best attributes

To try and avoid his interruptions, you might have to draft your whole message as one full message. Start the message by highlighting his attributes, and noting that you believe he is a wonderful or interesting man, whichever you choose. Attributes here can be anything from his charm to his body to his height or sexual skillset. Any praise in any form is good.

Step 3: "But....". Announce your refusal

Right after the attribute highlights, make your refusal known. Turn him down gently by using well-poised words like, unfortunately, and sounding as apologetic as possible. Don't tell a rambling story here. Be straightforward and brief. Even when being gentle, you can't avoid a bit of nastiness.

Step 4: Offer your reason (or not)

After you turn down a client, they will want to know why. It's not only fair that you say why you're making such a huge decision at the last minute. It's up to you to decide, though, whether to give a reason or not. When not conversing in person, you don't have to explain too much unless you want to. If you choose to offer a reason, give a viable one, even if it's not the actual reason. Reasons such as your illness always work in your favor. You can also try to be honest, especially if you didn't like the client. You can say you didn't click with the client and that you never go for a client with whom you haven't clicked. Some reasons make you sound smug and proud, such as stating that your priorities got in the way. Don't use those here even if they are true.

Step 5: Be clear if this is forever or just a postponement

Right after stating your reason, you need to clarify whether you're canceling the appointment permanently or just postponing it to another day. Some clients try to reschedule, yet it's them you don't want. Be clear at this level and expect some blowback from the client.

Step 6: Apologize again without any hard feelings

This is where you make your apologies to the client. Use the best apology possible and sound as down to earth as possible.

Step 7: Recommend someone else

If you have known the client a while, you might already have a repartee of sorts. Try recommending someone else in your place, an escort you know will be just as wonderful for him as you. It is very likely that this won't work, but if it does, it can be an excellent solution.

Step 8: Proofread and send the email or text message

Up until now, if you have been writing your turn down as one full message, this is the moment to proofread it and edit it. You don't want it full of errors or missing words. When you're done editing, send the message. Wait for a response, and then end the chat. Here's a sample message using the above format. "James, you sound like a great guy. I am sure you would be great in bed. But unfortunately, I am going to have to cancel our appointment. It's not your fault but mine; I haven't been feeling well the whole day. I will not be able to see you, and I apologize. To be clear, we cannot reschedule our appointment because I am fully booked out for weeks ahead. So this is goodbye. I am so so sorry for the inconvenience. In the meantime, I can recommend someone if you like. I know a good girl in Cheshire that does outcalls like me, looks a bit like me. If you're interested, I can share her contacts. Candy"

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