As an Escort How To Handle Anal Sex If A Client Requests It?

Anal sex is often fantasised about by clients, and some will occasionally request it. What should you do if they ask? Anal isn't something to take lightly, as it requires a lot of preparation to make it enjoyable and safe for both participants. 

In this article, we'll cover everything you need to know - from how to say no if you don't want to do anal, the preparations you should make if you do, and what happens after. 

Do You Really Want Anal?

Some people, especially those who are inexperienced, can become obsessed with the idea of anal sex. Just because they're really excited about it doesn't mean you have to say yes. Anal can be challenging and painful if not done right, so you'll want to be sure you're ready before you say yes.

Not everyone is interested in anal sex or enjoys the experience, and that's ok. You should be familiar enough with your body to know whether anal is right for you. 

As with all kinds of sex, consent is critical. If you're not up for it, you shouldn't feel required to make your client happy. 

If you know that you're not interested in anal sex, set ground rules ahead of time. This can make communication easy for both parties - you both know the limits before your encounter. 

If you do decide you're ok with anal, know that you can always stop if it becomes uncomfortable or painful. Saying yes to the initial act doesn't mean you have to follow through to completion. Be open and honest with your partner about what you're feeling, and let them know if you're experiencing discomfort or need to change positions. 

Have Escort Clients That Requested Anal?

What do you say if a client requests anal after you meet with them and you're not interested? 

This can put you in a tricky position of trying to please the client while also gently turning them down. You'll want to be aware of the language you use and your tone of voice when you opt out. It can be a tricky balance and can help to practice ahead of time.

Some escorts deny clients by keeping conversations light and fun to make sure things don't become heated. You can also compromise with the client by telling them about your other services and talents. 

Educating clients on the potential risks and dangers of anal sex can be a good way to explain your choices. Let them know that because you didn't plan for anal, you might not be properly prepped or simply don't enjoy the experience. 

Be sure to acknowledge and show appreciation to clients who are respectful of your choices. 

What Do You as an Escort Do To Prep for Anal Sex?

So you've decided anal sex is on the table; now what? One of the most important parts of anal is being adequately prepared, both physically and mentally. 

Properly preparing for anal includes educating yourself and experimenting with yourself ahead of time to better understand what you enjoy, as well as preparing your body for anal at least one to two hours before the act.

Explore Your Butt

If you haven't had anal before, you'll want to get educated first. Be sure to familiarise yourself with the potential risks, psychological aspects, and your body. 

Most people recommend experimenting with yourself before you experience anal for the first time with a man. Start with fingering yourself at your own pace, going slow, and using lots of lube. Notice what feels good and what's uncomfortable. 

Lube is critical to any anal play, as it reduces soreness and the risks of injuries. Water-based lube is best since it's the most compatible with condoms and sex toys. 

Once you're comfortable with yourself, start upgrading to various sex toys. Most anal sex toys have small sizes, to begin with, and can increase in size as you become more comfortable. Go at your own pace, and don't rush to full-size toys that you may have used while masturbating before. 

Keep It Clean

As we've mentioned, preparation is key to successful anal sex. We have a few recommendations to reduce potential messes and ensure you're as clean as you can be.

First, at the very least, use soap and water or a baby wipe to clean up your butt before doing anal. Many people use an enema or anal douche to clean deeper inside themselves, but these have some downsides.

An enema, or anal douche, is the process of using water through the rectum to flush out poop. 

Unfortunately, anal enemas can cause bloating, diarrhoea, or harm your electrolyte levels if used too often. If you do choose to use one, be sure it's not an everyday thing. A douche or enema should be used one to two hours before beginning anal play.  

Whichever path you choose, just be sure to clean up a bit before your encounter.

Expect The Mess

Despite all of this hard work and preparation, you can never be fully confident in a completely clean anal experience. This can be tough emotionally, as no one wants to come off as gross during sex. However, being prepared for a bit of poop during the experience can help reduce feelings of shame or embarrassment. 

Don't be shocked if you see a bit of poop, and be prepared in case it happens. We recommend having a towel or wipe nearby that you can use to clean up if that does happen. 

Learn Anal Sex Positions

We've talked a lot about the challenges with anal, so let's get into some fun stuff. Just because you're on the receiving end doesn't mean you can't have fun too!

Experimenting with different anal sex positions can open up a whole new world of possibilities. Many women can experience an anal orgasm if it's done right, so be sure to try some of these out and see how they feel.

Here are some of our favourite anal sex positions to try:

1. Doggy style
2. Doggy is great whether you're doing anal or not and is definitely worth giving a try. Just be sure your partner takes it slowly when they're entering you from behind, and use lots of lube.
3. Cowgirl/Reverse Cowgirl
4. Try sitting on your partner's lap, facing them or away, and take control of the experience. This can become incredibly intimate while hugging your partner but can also be experienced with other variations, such as the lotus position, lap dance, etc.
5. Spooning
6. This can be a good position if you're inexperienced with anal, as it makes it easy to go nice and slow. Lie on your side with your partner lying behind you, and ease yourself onto them. Lift your leg away from your body to open up your butt and make for an easier entry.
7. Missionary
8. Missionary can be great for anal, too, as it hits a different angle than the others. So give it a try and see what works for you!

Try out these positions, and don't be afraid to experiment! Anal orgasms can be incredibly powerful, and it's worth finding one that works for you.

Stock Up On Lube

As we've mentioned, lube is critically important to any anal play. This is because the anus isn't naturally lubricating like the vagina is. So be sure to have some on hand before you begin, and have some extra lube available in case you run out. 

Proper use of LOTS of lube can make anal a much more enjoyable experience for both partners. It makes entry significantly easier, makes anal feel better, and helps prevent injury and tearing during the act.

Be sure to lube up both the penis and the anus before attempting anal sex. You'll also want to be prepared to re-apply lube during your session if it starts to dry up. 

Since we always recommend using a condom for anal sex (more on this below), water-based lube is generally your best bet. Water-based lubricants don't break down silicone or polyurethane condoms or toys, unlike their oil-based or silicone-based counterparts. 

Saliva can also be used in a pinch if you run out of lube, but it dries up significantly faster than other lubes. So treat this one as a last resort. 

Warming Up

Getting started with anal can be challenging, so we recommend warming up your butt beforehand. Start with a finger or two to warm yourself up and loosen your anus before jumping into the deep end. This kind of anal play can help relax the sphincter muscles and make it easier to get started.

Some escorts choose to wear a buttplug beforehand if they know they will do anal later that day. You can also use toys like anal beads to warm up and slowly work your way to larger sizes until you're ready for the real thing. 

When The Time Comes For Anal

During anal sex, there are a few things you can do to make the most of it and enjoy the experience. These tips can make anal easier for you and give your client a deep sense of satisfaction. 

Don't Forget to Foreplay

Starting with foreplay makes sex better across the board, including anal. While it might not always be possible to warm up with a client properly, it's highly recommended. Getting worked up and ready through foreplay can lead to better orgasms and an easier time with anal.

Try warming up with anal sex toys, butt massages, or even rimming and analingus if you're up for it. This can all make it much easier to have a good time when you get to the actual sex.

Use Protection

Using a condom is always important in sex work and particularly with anal. Because the anus isn't naturally lubricated, it can be much easier for micro-tears to occur, which leads to anal being one of the easiest ways to spread STDs. 

When preparing for anal, be sure to stock up on several condoms. Not only do they protect you from STDs, but they can also help reduce the risk of getting bacterial vaginosis and urinary tract infections for both parties.

Having multiple condoms on hand is critical with anal sex, especially if you're switching between sex positions or orifices. Don't let your partner go directly from your butt to your vagina or mouth without changing the condom first. This is commonly known as “double dipping” and can cause serious infections if allowed to occur. 

Changing condoms regularly, especially during a long session, can significantly reduce the transmission of bacteria.

Go Slow

This is especially true if you're new to anal sex or are inexperienced with it. Start slow, and don't rush anything. 

This doesn't just apply to foreplay and getting warmed up; it's also about the act itself. Going slow lets you adapt to their size without pain or discomfort. Be sure to communicate with your partner, letting them know what feels good and what doesn't. Set the pace for them if you can. 

Say No to Pain

If you've followed these steps and are adequately prepared, anal should be an enjoyable experience. However, if you ever experience pain when having sex, you should stop immediately. Pain isn't normal and is probably a sign that you need more lube, a different angle, or to adjust the speed. Don't try to push through it. If you can't figure out a comfortable position, then it may be time to take a break and try again later. 

Communicate

Communication is key during any encounter, and this is especially true with anal sex. Know your own boundaries and limits, and let your partner know if you're nearing them. Tell them if you're experiencing pain or discomfort, and be prepared to stop the session if necessary.

Properly communicating what you're experiencing is important for avoiding pain. For example, let them know if you need more lube, if the angle isn't right, or if they're going too fast. With proper communication, it's much more likely that you'll find a position that works for you and achieve an orgasm. 

Getting To The Climax

Speaking of orgasms, what's the best way to achieve one during anal? Practising these techniques will make it much more likely for you to get there than anal sex alone:

1. Stroking your clit
2. During anal sex, your clit is left sadly untouched during most positions. Stimulating your clit by touching yourself is one of the easiest ways to improve your anal experience greatly. It also makes most women much more likely to orgasm. You can also ask your partner to touch you or use a vibrator or other toy at the same time. 
3. Double penetration
4. Speaking of stimulating the vagina, why not try double penetration while you're at it? This doesn't have to be with another partner; use a toy you have available and try it. Some women swear by the experience and have earth-shattering orgasms from it.
5. Anal training
6. Practising anal sex regularly is one of the best ways to get used to the experience and find out what works for you. As you progress, you'll become more comfortable with the sensations and more likely to relax into a state where you can orgasm. 
7. Do what you know works for you
8. Whether it's nipple play, clit stimulation, or something else - do what you enjoy most! Everyone is different, so experiment and stimulate yourself in different ways when performing anal.

Aftercare After Anal

Taking care of yourself after anal is just as important as preparing for the act itself. Take the time to clean up and ensure everything goes well when you're done. 

Clean Up!

Cleaning up after anal is essential, as microscopic faecal matter may still be present and cause infections and other issues. 

Showering can be a good way to clean up, but if that isn't an option, try washing yourself with soap and water or a wet wipe. Wash your entire genital region, not just your butt, to prevent the potential spread of bacteria. Be sure to wash any toys you used and your hands after you're done. 

Talk With Your Partner

Anal can be a vulnerable experience, especially if it's the first time. Checking in with yourself and your partner can be a good way to decompress and process the experience. If they're a regular client, talk to them about what you might want to do differently next time and what you liked and didn't like. 

Feeling Sore?

It's normal to feel a bit sore after anal, even if you followed every step we listed here. Sometimes you may experience pain sitting or in certain positions, and that's totally normal. Try taking a warm bath with Epsom salt to help soothe the pain and relax a bit. After all, you deserve it!

Conclusion

Anal sex with clients can be a touchy subject. Some love it, some hate it, and others just don't think it's their thing! It's totally normal, regardless of which camp you're in. Just be sure to communicate openly with your client, let them know your boundaries and limits, and stay safe. 

By Dainis Graveris